Introduction

When I was younger, I used to feel extremely jealous of my sister because she was smarter than me, prettier than me, and more athletic than me. She could do everything right while I struggled just to get by. The problem wasn’t that she was better than me at anything; it was that there were so many things for which we could compare each other. There were always going to be winners and losers in our household, even if it meant comparing ourselves against each other when we were kids instead of our friends or classmates from school.

Everybody has some sort of trauma in their childhood. Something that makes them who they are today.

Everybody has some sort of trauma in their childhood. Something that makes them who they are today.

For me, it was my parents getting a puppy when I was 8 years old. It sounds silly, but it was the first time in my entire life that I had ever felt jealous of anyone or anything before that point – and this feeling stuck with me for a while after the fact as well. That’s not to say there weren’t other times where my jealousy arose – but this was definitely one of the most pronounced times and one where it really stuck out to me long term because it left such an impact on my personality (and myself).

Early on in life, we develop coping mechanisms to deal with this trauma.

Most of us grow up with a little jealousy. We see other kids doing things that we wish we could do, and it makes us jealous. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you; everyone gets jealous sometimes. But if you’re stuck in a rut of constant jealousy, it can be hard to cope with or even understand your feelings.

Early on in life, we develop coping mechanisms to deal with this trauma. Some people cope by trying to be like those who have something they want—they may buy the same toys or clothes as the person they envy, try to copy their hairstyle and so forth. Other people may become bullies themselves—they figure that if they’re bigger than someone else (physically), then no one will want to compete with them for what seems like an unfair advantage over others’ happiness or success (a concept called “power-tripping”). And some people just ignore their problems altogether by retreating from reality into video games where everything is fine all the time because nothing changes – which isn’t completely true either!

I did not know how to cope with things in a healthy way, so I developed unhealthy coping mechanisms.

I did not know how to cope with things in a healthy way, so I developed unhealthy coping mechanisms.

I was jealous of my sister’s success. She had everything I wanted: she was talented and pretty and popular, she had tons of friends, and she always seemed to be having fun. It drove me crazy that she got all these things that should have been mine as well.

I was jealous of other people’s boyfriends—and not just any boyfriends but the most attractive ones who were also smart and nice and successful (which made them even more attractive). I would never be able to find someone like that for myself because no one would ever want me!

I had a lot of jealousy issues growing up because my sister and I were always compared in terms of grades, beauty, and athletic ability (and sometimes we were compared to our friends).

Growing up, my sister and I were always compared in terms of grades, beauty, and athletic ability (and sometimes we were compared to our friends). Our parents would say things like “Why can’t you be more like your sister?” or “You should work harder at school because you are not as smart as she is.” I remember there was a time when my mom told me that if I didn’t get straight A’s on my report card she wouldn’t buy me any clothes until the next school year. This kind of treatment made me feel like they didn’t love me as much as they loved her since she was their “perfect” child who never made mistakes or had to work hard for anything.

My parents never meant to do it, but they made us feel like we had to be perfect at everything or else they would be disappointed.

I think this is a common problem. Parents always want the best for their kids and they do everything they can to give them every opportunity, but sometimes they don’t realize how their actions affect their children.

Parents need to be more aware of the impact they have on their children. This is especially true when it comes to things like jealousy or competition, which are natural feelings that everyone experiences at some point in life.

The problem was that no matter what I did or what age I was, one sister was still going to be better than the other at something when compared.

The problem was that no matter what I did or what age I was, one sister was still going to be better than the other at something when compared.

This caused me a lot of stress and frustration. It made me feel like I was never good enough. And it led me to feel jealous of my own siblings when they were praised and praised for things that I felt inferior in doing myself.

As an adult looking back on this now, I realize that comparing yourself to others is not only unhealthy but also pointless because you can’t control what other people do or how well they do it (and even if you could control it, who wouldn’t want others around them to excel?). Instead, focus on your own strengths and weaknesses—your gifts as well as your flaws—and work on improving yourself rather than worrying about what someone else might have or have achieved by comparison.

That being said, my jealousy issues followed me into adulthood. Instead of being jealous about grades and awards, I began feeling jealous about things like other people’s boyfriends (some of which ended up cheating on me multiple times) and each other’s jobs and money situations (some of which ended up leaving me high and dry).

That being said, my jealousy issues followed me into adulthood. Instead of being jealous about grades and awards, I began feeling jealous about things like other people’s boyfriends (some of which ended up cheating on me multiple times) and each other’s jobs and money situations (some of which ended up leaving me high and dry).

At first I thought it was just a phase that would eventually go away as I got older. But after years of dealing with these issues and realizing that they weren’t going anywhere anytime soon, I decided to do something about them.

Eventually my jealousy led me down a dark path.

Eventually my jealousy led me down a dark path. I started comparing myself to others and feeling like I was not good enough. This caused me to become depressed, which in turn caused me to make bad decisions that harmed my relationships with others. If you have similar feelings of jealousy, it can help you if you find ways to reduce these feelings. A puppy might be the best therapy that anyone could ask for!

My jealousy issues came from childhood when my self-esteem was low because I didn’t feel good enough as a kid.

Jealousy is a complex issue, and it doesn’t help that the word itself means “envious” or “resentful.” Many people struggle with jealousy at some point in their lives. It’s not uncommon for jealous feelings to be caused by childhood trauma.

However, while being jealous can feel like an overwhelming situation, there are many things you can do to overcome it and get your life back on track. If you’ve ever been jealous before and wanted to know how to fix it, here are some tips:

• Educate yourself about what jealousy is, why it happens, and how other people deal with it (see below). You don’t have to understand everything right away—just give yourself time!
• Talk about your feelings with friends or family members who have had similar experiences; they’ll understand where you’re coming from!

Conclusion

So now that you’ve read my story and know how my jealousy issues began, I hope it helps you understand why you might be feeling jealous or insecure about something in your life. If it does help, then I’m glad to have been able to share my experience with all of you!